My Ashes:

I used to  live by the mantra, "We only get one shot at this life, so we better make it the best we can." Then I woke up sitting in the ashes of the life I had burned down, embers floating around me. 

Alcoholism. Selfishness. A failed marriage. A business I lost heart for. A lack of discipline and self-control. A calling to coaching and helping others—unmet and at the time, impossible for me to fulfill.

I sat there stunned. How was this my life? 

I thought my 40's were going to be the best decade of my life, but when I closed my hand around what I had, nothing but ashes fell through my fingers. This couldn't be real. This couldn't be what I was meant for. This couldn't be my "one shot" at this life. 

There had to be a second shot. 

There had to be redemption. 

My Iron:

I now live by a new mantra: Iron From Ashes

Since waking up in the pile of ashes I had created I have been—and continue to be—reforged into the man I always believed I could become.

I am sober. I think of others. I have a second chance at marriage. I rediscovered passion in my work. I am capable of fulfilling my calling to coaching and helping others.

My 40's are redeemed. It can still be the best decade of my life so far. I have a second shot. I have been reforged.

When I close my hand around what I have, ashes no longer slip through. There is strength. There is substance.

There is Iron.

The Forge:

Redemption isn't reserved for the deserving or lucky. It isn't limited to inspirational stories on social media. If it's possible for me, it's possible for you.

Being reforged is available to anyone willing to step into the fire, embrace the pain of honest self-examination, and choose change—one intentional step at a time.

The process is straightforward, though not easy: 

1) Clarify what you want to change and why it matters. 

2) Build awareness of where you've been, where you are now, and the patterns that brought you here.

3) Take aligned action with support, reflection, and accountability.

I won't push you into the fire or pull you through it. I will stand with you as you face what's real, make conscious choices, and take action toward the man you want to become.

Iron from Ashes